New Year resolutions have been around for more than 4,000 years, long before gym memberships and dry January. The Babylonians rang in the new year by making promises to their gods, and later the Romans named January after Janus, the two-faced god who looked backward and forward, a fitting symbol for reflection and fresh starts. Today, we keep the tradition alive for much the same reason: the calendar turns, we pause, take stock of where we’ve been, and imagine where we’d like to go. At their best, resolutions reflect our very human hope for renewal, meaning, and realignment with our values. That said, I’ve learned that some years are less about dramatic self-improvement and more about finally tackling that impressively long list of things I’ve been meaning to get to all along. Every year, I make a list of things I’ve been meaning to do but keep putting off, resolving that this will finally be the year I follow through. Like many people if I don’t tackle them in the first few weeks those good intentions often fade.

My work in funeral care reminds me that some things are too important to delay. Too often I assist families who regret they never had a conversation with their deceased loved one about their wishes for after-death care, leaving them to make tough decisions during an already emotional time. This year I am determined to help people recognize the value of pre-planning their funeral care. By encouraging advance planning for funeral services, celebrations of life, and final disposition, I hope to help people reframe what may feel overwhelming into a meaningful expression of care for the people they love.

Like many things we tend to put off, planning your funeral care isn’t difficult. Rather than sharing the horror stories that can result when no plans are made, I want to offer a few reasons why pre-planning is truly a gift to those who will survive you.

1.    It takes the guesswork out of a hard time
After a death, families are asked to make many choices while emotions are running high. Pre-planning spares them from wondering what you would have wanted when clear thinking is hardest.

2.    It reduces stress, conflict, and second-guessing
Without guidance, families may worry about “getting it wrong.” Sadly, I have witnessed disagreements that have caused family division when harmony is crucial. Your plans provide clarity and reassurance, helping loved ones support one another rather than struggle with uncertainty.

3.    It allows your family to grieve without distraction
When the logistics are already settled, your loved ones can focus on remembering and honoring your life instead of scrambling to make time-sensitive decisions.

4.    It ensures your life is celebrated in your own way
Sharing your preferences for music, readings, rituals, or special touches helps your family create a meaningful tribute without the pressure of guessing how to capture your essence.

5.    It’s a final act of love
Thoughtful pre-planning communicates care, consideration, and foresight letting your loved ones know that, even after you’re gone, you’re still looking out for them. Pre-planning your funeral or celebration of life isn’t morbid or difficult; it’s a loving gift to your family.

 Plan today, give peace tomorrow!  Miles Funeral Home Pre-planning Specialist is Amber Ditamasso and you can arrange a time to meet with her using this link Amber@Milesfuneralhome.com  or calling her at 508-829-4434.

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