I recently received a call from a friend whose partner died in October. With a quiet sadness in his voice, he shared that he was “just checking in” to see whether his grief was “on schedule.” When I asked what he meant by that, he explained that his body, heart, and emotions felt unusually heavy, almost more than he could carry. He was concerned that he seemed to be struggling more now than he did in the weeks immediately following his loss and wondered whether this was “normal.” “Shouldn’t I feel better by now?” he asked.

His expectation was not uncommon. As we talked further, two important truths emerged. First, grief does not follow a timeline. Second, grief often ebbs and flows with the seasons. Feeling that grief is heavier during winter months is a common experience, and responding to it with gentle, intentional self-care is essential.

Early in the winter season, the holidays tend to absorb much of our grief. We focus our energy on navigating family gatherings, managing social obligations, and confronting memories of past holidays shared with those we have lost. During this time, feelings of sadness, anxiety, and loneliness are often acknowledged and more readily accepted.

Once the holidays pass, however, mid-winter can bring its own challenges. Heavy snow, colder temperatures, shorter days, and fewer social interactions can create a sense of isolation. The quieter rhythm of winter often mirrors the internal weight many grieving people feel. For some, this season can be especially difficult, as the external environment reflects the heaviness already present within.

Grief rarely follows a straight path. It moves in cycles, sometimes gently, sometimes unexpectedly. The following practices can offer support during the winter season:

• Accept the natural rhythm of grief
  Just as winter slows the natural world, grief often asks us to slow down as well. Some days may feel manageable, while others feel heavier. Allowing these shifts without judgment is an important act of self-compassion.

•  Invite warmth and light into your days
  Small comforts can make a meaningful difference. Lighting a candle, enjoying a warm beverage, or spending time near natural light can create moments of calm and grounding during darker days.

•  Seek gentle connection
  Grief can feel isolating, particularly in winter. Connection does not need to be demanding. A brief phone call, a short visit, or participation in a grief support group can offer reassurance that you are not alone.

• Care for your body as part of healing
  Grief is experienced physically as well as emotionally. Gentle movement, time outdoors during daylight, rest, and warmth can help support the body and mind during winter months.

• Create space for remembrance
  Winter’s quiet can offer opportunities for reflection. Looking through photographs, journaling, or observing a simple ritual of remembrance can help keep a loved one’s memory present in a meaningful and comforting way.

Grief does not disappear with the changing seasons, but caring for yourself through winter can help soften its weight. If you or someone you love would benefit from additional support, Miles Funeral Home is always here to offer guidance, resources, and a compassionate listening ear.